We’ve all heard the phrase “why does my life suck” or “why does this always happen to me” when people are feeling down or defeated. In fact, many of us have probably uttered this question or something similar to it at some point in our lives. The answer to this question can be found in the question itself. Oh great you may say.
When things aren’t going well, it’s often easy to point to things outside of ourselves for the obvious answer. Someone betrayed us, someone blew up at us, we were criticized or corrected in some way, or any number of other things. While it may be true that this happened, the root of your response can be found if you embark on an inside journey. It is only there that you can find the underlying reason(s) for feeling the way you do and understanding how you react.
It all starts with our thoughts. Thoughts at their very core are nothing more than energy. That energy is transformed into emotion, and our emotions can and often drive our actions. Thinking yourself the victim in a situation signals the body to feel defensive and perhaps angry, hurt, or even filled with rage. With all that emotional energy now bottled up inside, it becomes the fuel that drives our actions. The simple thought that ‘my life sucks’ sets into motion a chain of events that guarantees even more ‘my life sucks’ results.
We are what we think we are. If you perceive and therefore think the world around you is out to get you or that someone has harmed you in some way, you automatically begin generating feelings that mirror or amplify those thoughts. It then creates a perpetual cycle that seeks to validate those thoughts. It works at both the individual and collective levels.
Think for a moment about the way you see other people such as an individual or group. If you think they are stupid, hateful, ignorant (you name it), then everything they do will be interpreted through that filter. In the end, their words and actions simply reinforce your perspective. On the other hand, when we view others through a lens of love, empathy, or respect, we see them and our situation differently. We give others the benefit of the doubt and don’t prejudge their motives. Even in the face of poor behavior or a mistake, we are quick to dismiss it as nothing more than an isolated situation.
So if you believe your life sucks right now, look no further than the mirror. What thoughts dominate your life at this moment? Thoughts are the fuel of the human soul. If you want to experience greater love and support, you must perceive and think love and support. Put positive fuel on the fire and you’ll find warmth and comfort. Throw shit on the flames and your life will inevitably stink.
This simple truth holds true for all thoughts, not just those your compartmentalize. This is why Jesus exhorted us to love our enemies. When we hold thoughts of love and empathy for others, we feed the flames of our emotions with positive light that is then reflected back to us. If your life sucks right now, try changing your thoughts. It’s the fastest way to get out of the gutter.
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