The phrase “don’t sell yourself short” is often a reminder that you possess greater capacity and capability than you give yourself credit for. I’ve used this phrase with others and have also been the recipient. We often encounter this phrase in the midst of challenges when we’re on the verge of giving up. It’s serves as a booster shot of self-confidence when needed most.
Not selling yourself short is an essential element in embracing your personal value. If you attract disrespect or mistreatment, perhaps it’s because the value you’re advertising yourself as reflects a cheap and used inner sense of self-worth. We attract that which we value. So if you feel like your’e a magnet for cheap relationships, friendships, or people who don’t value you or take advantage of you, look no further than the mirror.
You often see this cycle played out in personal relationships. People sometimes remain in relationships that are toxic or worse. Even when they do break free, they frequently end up attracting more of what they escaped from. A root element in this is often a direct reflection of self. If you don’t believe you’re worthy of the best, you’ll always be selling yourself on the clearance rack of life. Your view of yourself is an advertisement sign. When you feel cheap and under-valued, you end up attracting cheap buyers or swindlers looking for a deal.
The laws of attraction are irrefutable. When we value ourselves and maintain a sense of self-love, the signals we send out reflect that. It’s like the difference between the signs advertising a cheap used car lot and those of a luxury auto dealer. How safe and valued do you feel walking onto a used car lot anticipating the used car sales pitch? The stereotypical used car salesman believes you too naive, uninformed, or too stupid to make a good choice. If this is the energy you’re generating, then guess what – you’ll be going home with a lemon.
Contrast that with stepping on a new car lot for Mercedes. If you’re determined to buy a nice car and know you are worth it, you confidently step onto the lot as if you own the place. You’re in control. You know what you want and won’t be taken for granted. But make no mistake, you can’t fake it either. If your self-worth is no better than a used car and you step into a luxury dealership, sooner or later, you’ll be found to be a fraud. The difference here is your own self-worth and what you bring to the game. It’s not a cocky or conceited energy; it’s plain confidence and self-love.
Attracting quality relationships and connections starts with valuing ourselves. When you decide to no longer compromise on quality, you shift your energy and what you attract. We have all had relationships where it seems the other person simply wants to take advantage of us or mistreats us in some way. They only call when they want or need something. The relationship is all about them. Whose fault is it if you remain connected with that person? In cases like that, they don’t value you, they only value what you will do for them. When you decide to stop being a doormat, you find there really wasn’t a relationship in the first place. I’ve yet to walk from a toxic relationship to have the other person apologize and change their behavior.
When we see ourselves as weak or under-valued, we become a magnet for people who only want to exploit us. Strong and confident people repel unwanted predators. It works in the same way as our physical health. A strong and vibrant body easily deflects bacteria, viruses, and disease. The weak and sick often fall prey to illness because they don’t have the antibodies to combat the parasites. In a spiritual sense, the positive light and energy we emit from self-love, self-respect, and confidence are antibodies that deflect away any attempts to harm us.
If you want to attract quality in your life, stop hanging the clearance sale sign of energy around your neck. Instead, invest in self-love and respect. Recognize how incredibly valuable you are. Let others know you’ll not tolerate being taken for granted or walked over. This isn’t an act of arrogance, but one of self-respect. Recognize you are worthy of the best for that is what our Creator wants for all of us. When we stop being victims and become the victor, we suddenly begin attracting others who also value the same.
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