I would guess we all have experienced betrayal at some point in our lives. When someone betrays us, there is a bond of trust and connection that is broken, often beyond repair. Even if we find a path to move past the actual breach, the wounds can linger for a long time and rebuilding trust requires extraordinary effort.
Now I’m not talking just about romantic relationships although those can be the deepest and most painful wounds to heal. There are many forms of betrayal from close friends to employers, to clients or associates. But have you ever considered the gift that comes when someone breaks our trust? While that may strike you as odd or even crazy, I believe that we can learn much about ourselves in those moments. The gift comes in the form of pain and allows us to get in touch with parts of our selves we often take for granted. Let me explain.
Feeling betrayed is really no different from many other feelings. While certainly negative and painful, how we choose to relate to the situation is a clear indicator to what lies beneath. Your reaction may signal deeper wounding such as a parent that abandoned you at some point or a loss at an early age that has been long forgotten. Going deeper then and exploring where this feeling is coming from creates an opening to resolve something lingering in the shadows for a long time. Do you feel victimized by the betrayal? If so, how often do you feel like the victim in your life? What does this say about you own sense of self-control and perception of personal power? What can you learn from this?
Another perspective may be that your trust in someone had been misplaced all along. Perhaps you have grown dependent upon them in some way. Maybe they made you feel good about yourself by the way they treated you. Yet there may have been a deeper and darker motivation for their words of support and praise. It could be they were simply manipulating your feelings in order to help themselves. The betrayal then is the gift of enlightenment when you finally realize you have been played and it’s time to break free from the chains that you allowed to be placed upon you.
There are many underlying reasons that could explain why you are feeling betrayed. Pause for a moment however and invite yourself to go deeper. Look for the gift that is wrapped inside of this dark and foreboding package. What you learn about yourself is probably of much greater value than the act of betrayal itself. Once free from this bondage, you will then be better equipped to move forward. It’s like the life lessons we fail to learn over and over again. They will continue to present themselves to us until we have the courage to embrace the learning and restore emotional health to our lives.
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