Life is not always smooth and fluid. It often seems like a see-saw in a continuum of movement, back and forth. If you remember playing on a see-saw, you may recall the joy and fun when two people move continuously up and down. I also remember the frustration that came when the other person would choose to hold the see-saw in one position and I was left hanging up int he air; that’s when the fun could be brought to a halt. In any continuum, when we get fixed in a position, we end up dividing things on either one side or the other. It’s much like politics today where people are categorized as either on the “left” or “right” of an issue. Life is about flow and if we are rigid in our thinking, we create dams. As the pressure builds behind the dam, we can find ourselves in situations when the weight becomes too much and the dam breaks; the results can be catastrophic.
Instead of being rigid and immovable, life should be more like the rhythm of the see-saw when both parties work in harmony. The smooth movement creates an even flow. There are certainly aspects in our lives where having a firm position (our values) is important, yet like the dam, we need to be willing to allow some water to flow. It’s like a relief valve of sorts that maintains some form of balance. I know in my own life, my values have been shifting. Early in my life, I had some very firm positions, but the more I experienced other perspectives, the more willing I became to allowing some of that pressure to be released. Most of the time it has been because I was open and willing to step into other’s perspectives. Seeing life through the lens of someone else makes me willing to challenge my own hard positions and be softened through empathy and understanding.
Standing in paradox should not be confused with living without values. Values act as beacons in our lives guiding and keeping us from crashing on the rocks. Our values guide our behavior and inform our perspectives. Without values, we would be adrift on the sea of life without a sense of bearing. Remaining pliable doesn’t mean that your values are prone to change or that you’re willing to simply go with the flow. Instead, to live in paradox means that you are open to realize that someone else’s values and perspectives are as valid as your own. It means you are willing to accept that standing in someone else’s shoes is as valid as your own; you accept the sacred value of their life as you do your own.
For me, I choose to live in paradox. When we choose to be like clay in the creator’s hands, we can be molded and shaped into any number of things. And like clay in the potter’s hands, it can be re-made and re-shaped over and over again. Being pliable makes life more interesting, joyful, and creative. It’s only when the clay is allowed to dry and become hard that the object is finished. My hope and desire is that the time when my own clay becomes hard and fired in the kiln is when this life has come to an end and an entirely new journey begins.
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